There are many reasons why expectant mothers do not immediately tell friends that they are pregnant until their first trimester is completed. A percentage of pregnancies end in miscarriages during the 1st trimester. However, not a lot of people understand this.
When parents are expecting and want to keep it in, they will remain mum until the time is right. No one but the parents should be the judge of determining when to tell others. However, there are lots of giveaways in the 1st trimester such as bigger breasts (unless you've been keeping a close watch on your friend's breasts, it shouldn't be that obvious), drinkers not drinking, coffee drinkers ordering decaf, sashimi lovers suggesting a another restaurant other than Japanese, and so forth. As mentioned, there are many reasons why parents choose to stay mum. But most expectant parents would have a sharp friend who would pick up these signals. What's unfortunate would be if the friend is someone who cannot keep their trap shut.
I have seen many of my friends get busted by some know-it-all at dinners who doesn't have the courtesy and etiquette to ask questions such as 'Are you pregnant?' privately, and to let the subject go when the parents stammer one excuse after another awkwardly.
I did not experience these situations as the expectant parent myself but something of the same nature happened to us. My husband told his paddling team about my pregnancy, and immediately, someone from his team texted my teammate to reveal the baby news. What's weird is that the person who did the texting were frenemies with the person he texted to and they don't talk often or even like each other. Of course, my teammate texted others right away before confirming with me about the news. Anyway, that really took the joy out of me sharing the news with others, thanks to these thunder-stealing acquaintances.
There are some things where it's not appropriate to race to be the first to tell everyone, and someone else's pregnancy is one of them.
When parents are expecting and want to keep it in, they will remain mum until the time is right. No one but the parents should be the judge of determining when to tell others. However, there are lots of giveaways in the 1st trimester such as bigger breasts (unless you've been keeping a close watch on your friend's breasts, it shouldn't be that obvious), drinkers not drinking, coffee drinkers ordering decaf, sashimi lovers suggesting a another restaurant other than Japanese, and so forth. As mentioned, there are many reasons why parents choose to stay mum. But most expectant parents would have a sharp friend who would pick up these signals. What's unfortunate would be if the friend is someone who cannot keep their trap shut.
I have seen many of my friends get busted by some know-it-all at dinners who doesn't have the courtesy and etiquette to ask questions such as 'Are you pregnant?' privately, and to let the subject go when the parents stammer one excuse after another awkwardly.
I did not experience these situations as the expectant parent myself but something of the same nature happened to us. My husband told his paddling team about my pregnancy, and immediately, someone from his team texted my teammate to reveal the baby news. What's weird is that the person who did the texting were frenemies with the person he texted to and they don't talk often or even like each other. Of course, my teammate texted others right away before confirming with me about the news. Anyway, that really took the joy out of me sharing the news with others, thanks to these thunder-stealing acquaintances.
There are some things where it's not appropriate to race to be the first to tell everyone, and someone else's pregnancy is one of them.
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